03 Dec All I Do is Win
We all like to win. Or at least the vast majority of people like to win. I would consider myself to be a competitive person and I would say that it is a large motivational factor for me. It pushes me to be the best version of myself whenever I can. Competition may have a negative connotation for being dirty and a bad reason to work hard, but it doesn’t have to be. Good-natured competition can be a great way to spur each other on and improve the group and improve as an individual.
Psychology Today defines competitiveness as “the drive to accomplish a goal, bring out the best in individuals, indeed help them understand themselves.” The lengths that people are willing to go to when they are trying to win are the negative sides of competition. It shouldn’t bend the rules or cause relationships to deteriorate. It is important to watch yourself when you are being competitive to make sure the ugly sides of competition aren’t coming out.
Where I was in high school and in a ballet company, I will always remember one piece of advice one of my teachers gave us. She told us to stand next to the person who we think is the best in the class or is better than us in an area that we wanted to improve in. It is our natural inclination to try to be the best in the room. While we were not trying to “beat” or “take down” the other students in the class, we were competitive and pushed each other on by trying to out-perform.
Competitive is fun. It turns everything in a game. And we like games. We have been turning everything into a game by making it a competition for a long time. I wouldn’t be surprised if the hunters and gatherers of times of old were competing with each other about who could hunt or gather more stuff and faster. Competitiveness likely came from our need for survival and the whole “survival of the fittest” idea. After all, don’t you want to be one of the fittest, one of the ones who survives? Then came the invention of sports and the creation of democracy. Competition keeps us in check. Without competition in business, there would be many evil monopolies. Without competition in politics, we would likely be ruled under a dictatorship.
Even the Bible talks about the potential benefits of competition as a motivator. Romans 12:10 says “Love each other with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor.” Competition can be used to benefit others when it inspires us to be better people. That is why you should choose your competition wisely. Surrounding yourself with the best people is the best way to become more like them.
One way to maintain healthy competition is to make sure that everyone feels valued. This should be natural because if someone is trying to “beat you” for lack of a better term that would mean that they value your ability or knowledge. If you are worth being beaten then that is saying something about your value. After all, if there is no one on your heels why do you even need to run at all. Ever since I was little, I’ve been told “Everything isn’t a competition!” but maybe it is. And maybe that could be a good thing.